People show love in many shapes. No relationship is identical, which is why Polyamory and the ability to have a relationship with more than one person have become a frequently common topic of conversation.
Although many people have heard the word Polyamory, not all is clear on the definition or the dynamics of how these non-monogamous relationships work.
Polyamor, which is technically loving more than one person or partner, is confused or mistakenly viewed as an open relationship. Which is not always the case.
In fact, polyamorous bonds are different in that they are composed of multiple, loving, consensual partnerships.
What is a polyamorous relationship?
A polyamorous relationship is a kind of non-monogamous relationship that deviates from an average relationship in that several people are involved – not just two.
A polyamorous relationship is often recognized by a primary couple that openly (and with common consent) participates or being involved with other intimate or romantic companionships. These sexual affairs may be set as a couple or independently.
However, even polyamorous relationships differ from couples.
For some that chose this relationship, a polyamorous relationship involves being in a relationship with multiple people but having one principal partner. For others, Polyamory is the opportunity of being in two entirely separate relationships.
The founding philosophy of Polyamory is that sexual love shouldn’t be restricted, to the strictures of monogamy, but expressed wholly and freely.
How does it work?
Since polyamorous relationships do not observe the mainstream model of a relationship in our society, the logistics often confuse to outsiders.
To be successful, everyone involved must be vocal and honest about what they desire out of the union.
While the dynamics in Polyamory are different from monogamous relationships, Rules still exist – whether by outlining who can enter into a relationship or putting limits on how much time can be spent with each partner.
Maintaining open communication is essential to a polyamorous relationship so that issues can be avoided.
Nevertheless, jealousy can still happen – even if you are open with your partner/partners.
Having just one partner is already hard enough, Imagine two or more? The more people involved, the more it can be not very easy holding the current of emotions.
On the other hand, Polyamory eliminates the secrecy and betrayal of trust that circles an affair. On the other hand, managing to find joy from a loved one’s pleasure in another is a different side of the coin.
Polyamory can work if both parties are entirely emotionally and philosophically on the same wavelength with the concept. Even so, it’s challenging to abolish the insecurity that sparks jealousy.
What’s the difference with Open-relationship?
Usually, Polyamory is viewed the same as an open relationship – but that is not always the case, although both are viewed as non-monogamous.
In polyamorous relationships, it is not only about sex, whereas an open relationship is normally characterized as being involve outside sexual relationships that do not turn into bonds.
With Polyamory, the purpose is to have added relationships – as love, and emotional connections are the driving forces.
Who enters into a polyamorous relationship?
Anyone can become engaged in a polyamorous relationship, as long as the understanding of what the purpose and philosophy are understood.
While polyamorous people do manage to be more open, it does not mean that they just get involved in sex with multiple partners, or that their sexual choices are fluid.
To be involve into a polyamorous relationship, one must be clear about their wants and needs.
Although Polyamory means being loved or loving more than one people, it takes the highest trust, communication, and intentional clarity, so that everyone can benefit from free love.
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