Everyone’s self esteem takes a hit at one point in their life for one reason or another. Perhaps you just went through a bad break up, or you lost your job. When things like this happen it’s difficult to learn how to love yourself again. There is no quick fix for this; you have to work on changing your mindset, which takes a lot of time and effort.
Let Go Of The Past
The first step that you must take in order to learn how to love yourself, is learning how to let go of the past. This is quite difficult to do, especially if you’ve had a rather rough past, like being in an abusive relationship, or you’ve been through some legal trouble. Remember that the past is the past for a reason. Things happen that we have no control over. You’re not that person anymore. Did you learn from past mistakes, if so then you can start to move on.
Don’t Let Your Flaws Define You
Everyone has flaws, and little things that we don’t like about ourselves. This is what makes us human. We as humans are not perfect, and we never will be. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t always strive for self improvement, just remember not to be overly self critical, especially over things that you have no control over. Once you remember that, you’re on your way to learning how to love yourself.
Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
It’s extremely difficult to learn how to stop comparing ourselves to other people. I place a lot of blame for this on the American education system; we as children are graded and evaluated constantly. This sets us up for a lifetime of comparing ourselves to others. There’s no point to doing this and it only sets you up for disappointment in the end. Once you learn how to stop comparing yourself to those around you, can you truly learn how to love yourself.
Spend Time With The People Who Love You
One of the best and quickest ways to learning how to love yourself is spending time with the people in your life who love you. When you spend enough time around friends, family, and the others who love you, then you begin to see the things in yourself that they see in you. Finally, you begin to believe them and they become a part of the conversation you have with your higher self.
Remember That You Can’t Please Everyone
I struggled with this one for a long time, as a matter of fact. The truth is that you can’t please everyone, and you will only drive yourself to exhaustion, and possibly the brink of insanity if you spend all of your energy trying to please people. Some people are just going to dislike you, no matter what you do to obtain their approval. My advice is to forget about them. They might be jealous of you, or they’re dealing with their own issues. Also, some people are incapable of not finding fault in everything. Forget about them, and focus on the person who really matters: yourself.
Don’t expect changes overnight. Remember that learning to love yourself takes time. You can do it.
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