6 Reasons To Befriend People Who Challenge You

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As humans, we like to be around people who are like us. We like to be friends with people who think like us, like the same things as us, and even say the same things as us. While this is a comfortable way of living, it’s not a good thing. It’s important to surround yourself with people who challenge you, as much as you might not want to. This will help you grow as a person.

You Don’t Want To Be In An Echo Chamber

When you surround yourself with people who see things exactly the way that you do, then your life will begin to resemble an echo chamber. Many of us live in echo chambers and we don’t even realize it. We can tailor our news feeds on Facebook and Twitter so that we only see things that we like, or views that we agree with. While I love not being bombarded with Fox News stories and pro-Trump memes, I find that I am often guilty of confirmation bias. This is why I try to befriend people whose likes and views are different from mine.

They’ll Challenge Your Beliefs

When you surround yourself with people who have different beliefs from you then they will challenge your own. This is a good thing, so hear me out. People are not static beings; they are constantly evolving, both physically and especially mentally. People learn and then they grow. Befriending someone who challenges you on what you believe in, gives you an opportunity to step outside of your comfort zone, which is good for us every so often.

You’ll Become A Better Thinker

People who challenge you will make you better at critical thinking. When you surround yourself with people who never tell you no, or disagree with you then your thinking becomes complacent and lazy. A person who challenges you will force you to look at things from a different perspectives. This will not only help you hone your critical thinking skills, you’ll also become a better decision maker.

Life Will Be More Exciting

Life is boring when you’re only around people who think and act like you! Life isn’t about being comfortable and complacent 24/7. Our brains need stimulation and excitement, some of which should be coming from the people around you. Challenging people keep things exciting, and they keep you on your toes.

You Learn How To Be More Accepting

When you’re around people that you always agree with, then you have no trouble accepting them, this is nice until you come across someone who challenges you. You’re more unwilling to accept them and their beliefs because you have been conditioning yourself to see things from only one perspective, yours. People who challenge you force you to change these myopic ways of thinking, and ultimately you grow as a person.

You’ll Be More Successful

People in business like to surround themselves with people who challenge them because they can not only utilize different types of talents, they find that these people help them to be successful. While you surely don’t have the same goals as some high-powered executive, you can follow the same principles in your own life. This doesn’t mean that you should be intentionally picking fights with people on Facebook, of course.

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