Everyone goes through a rough patch in their relationship. Some relationships survive, some don’t. If you want your current relationship to not only survive the rough times, but also thrive, then there are things that you must do to strengthen your relationship.
Don’t Try To Change Them
One of the most common pieces of relationship advice given is that you shouldn’t try to change your partner. Despite this, the reason that many relationships fail is because people don’t accept their significant other for who they are, faults and all. Of course, if your partner engages in behaviors that can harm them and the people around them, like drinking too much, that’s a different story. Learn to love your partner’s flaws, for that is what makes them human. You have faults of your own, that they surely have learned to accept about you. Extend your partner the same courtesy. Remember what brought you two together in the first place. There was something about your partner that you liked enough that you decided to enter into a relationship with them. Remember that people are not static; an important part of any relationship is learning how to grow together. Sometimes people do outgrow one another, in which case it’s probably time to end the relationship.
Work On Your Communication
Relationship experts will tell you that the key to any good relationship is communication. This is the truth. If your partner does something that upsets you, tell them that you’re upset and most importantly, tell them why. If you want your partner to help out more with the housework, then ask them to help out more. Don’t engage in passive aggressive behaviors, like slamming the dishes as you put them away, or muttering to yourself in front of them as you clean. Discussing the boundaries in your relationship is particularly important, especially if your relationship is more on the unconventional side. Otherwise, you will end up resenting your partner, and that resentment continue to build until it kills your relationship.
Make Time For Each Other
It is extremely important that you make time for your partner. I understand that you’re both pretty busy. You might work opposite schedules, or you might have kids together, which is especially time consuming. Go out on dates together. Put your phones down and snuggle together on the couch. Make sure that you’re having sex on the regular. You’d be surprised how much a relationship suffers when people don’t make time for each other. You’d also be surprised how much making a little more effort to be together really can help. Send the kids to their grandparents for the weekend and rediscover each other.
Show Appreciation For Them
You know how much you appreciate your partner, but are they aware? You might think so, but you could always show them a little more appreciation. You’d be surprised how much these little gestures really help. Send your partner a text telling them how amazing they are while they’re at work. Have dinner ready when they get home from work. If your partner had a shit day at work, massage their feet while they vent to you. Show them that no one appreciates them more than you do. Getting an “I love you” text from my boyfriend when I’m having a bad day can completely change the course of my day. I feel reenergized and ready to take on the world.
Learn To Laugh Together
Your significant other is more than your partner, they should also be your best friend. The two of you should be able to laugh together, and do it often. Have little inside jokes that only the two of you share. They say that laughter is the best medicine, and this is certainly the case for any relationship.
If your relationship was truly meant to last, then taking each of these steps should be enough to fix any issues that the two of you might be having. Of course, some relationships cannot be saved, and if this is the case for you, then the mature thing to would be to break it off so the two of you can move on and be happy.
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