When you first come out of a bad break up you feel not only devastated, but really lost, especially if you’re just coming out of a long term relationship. There’s a bit of an adjustment period because you have to figure out how to live alone again. Then you get to realizing that being alone isn’t that bad; in fact, it’s pretty awesome.
The best thing about not being attached to anyone is the freedom that comes with it. You don’t have to answer to anyone, and you can pack up and live the life of adventure that you always wanted. As great as having a relationship and a family can be, you can’t shirk your responsibilities to them in order to take an impromptu trip to Belize.
Developing A Relationship With Yourself
When you’re alone, then you get to devote all of your time and energy to furthering your relationship with yourself. When you’re perpetually moving from one relationship to the next, you don’t really get a chance to develop a relationship with yourself because you’re busy being who someone else wants you to be. As a result, when you’re finally alone, you have no idea who you are. Now you finally have a chance to learn about your own needs and desires.
Learning How To Rely On Yourself
When you’re always in a relationship, you never really learn how to rely on yourself. You’re always used to having someone else there. This is especially the case when you were living with someone. Being all alone and fending for yourself might seem a little daunting at first, but self-reliance is a good skill to have, and it’s one that many people lack. Eventually, you get to the point where you realize that you don’t need anyone or anything but the head on your shoulders.
When you’re surrounded by people all of the time (especially kids), you really begin to miss the sound of silence. I don’t mean the Simon and Garfunkel song, I mean the peacefulness of no one talking to you. Now you can finally finish all of those books that you’ve been meaning to finish for months now.
You’ll Accomplish More
When you’re alone, then your mind tends to be more present in the moment and less distracted. As such, you’re now able to get more things accomplished, like devoting time to your art or whatever you feel passionate about. The nice thing about being alone and in the now is that it does wonders for your creativity. Even if you’re not in a place where you’re enjoying your solitude just yet, you can use your pain to create fantastic art.
If you’re just getting out of a long term relationship, then obviously you’re not going to find the joy in being alone. It takes time to adjust to your new way of life, but eventually you’ll grow to love your solitude. Take time to learn how to be alone before jumping immediately into another relationship.
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